It sounds like there’s something here that needs to be looked at and this may be precisely why this is happening right now. Your choice of words here doesn’t sound like a coincidence. Why is this about letting him “get away” with treating you like this, as if you need to teach him a lesson or set a precedent in your response so that he can’t treat you like this again? Why wouldn’t you try to make it work? And why would this be a bad thing if you’ve been with this guy for five years already, unless maybe this is someone you’ve had some concerns about for a while? In a loving, healthy relationship, both people try to make it work, both people want to make it work and don’t hesitate to do what each of them can to make this work together.Īnd this part, “I’m nervous I’ll let him get away with treating me like this.” I can’t help but get the feeling that there’s something here about power, from your words “If given the chance, I know I would try to make it work.” Obviously you’ve already reached out to him and asked him if he needs more time or if it’s just over and that’s how you know he won’t tell you which it is, or if it’s something else altogether. What’s the rest of your relationship like? How do the two of you communicate? This is your boyfriend you’ve been with for five years and because of this one fight, he won’t tell you if he needs more time or if this is just over? He’s just silent? You had a fight, you both stumbled, and now he’s giving you the silent treatment. Thank you for all your help! I love reading your blog. What’s the best way to deal with this situation? We both stumbled during our most recent fight and it’s just so disappointing that he would treat me like this. I deserve to be respected but I know that if given the chance, I would try to make it work and I’m nervous that I will let him get away with treating me like this. I go between feeling heartbroken and just so angry. He won’t tell me if he needs more time or if this is just over. Given how long we have been together, I cannot believe he would just go radio silent after an argument we had a few days ago. My boyfriend of 5 years is giving me the silent treatment and it’s so painful. Unfortunately, I'm sure many of you can relate. Well, our letter this week comes from Cecilia who's in the midst of a radio silent phase with her boyfriend of five years.Here's what she had to say and my response. He's giving me the silent treatment and it's so painful.Įver encountered radio silence before? The silent treatment kind.
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